You're Turning Me On

Ok so yesterday I did the Turn Offs well here are a list of realistic Turn Ons. The Turn Ons were just as funny as the Turn Offs but I think these are the most helpful. Once again nothing sexual...there are other blogs for that....just go and google them.

Turn Ons
1. Personality is very important. Look for easy-going, easy to be with, low maintenance.

2. Confident, fun, strong - yet kind- women

3. Takes care of herself- mentally and physically

4. Makes decisions based on what is good for her, not to please me or someone else

5. Is positive and can be part of a healthy give-and-take relationship...remember it is not all about you!!!

6. Attractive and has style and class

7. Is a good friend, easy-going. easy to be with

8. Is upfront and communicates feelings/wants/needs clearly and directly...the key words are CLEARLY AND DIRECTLY LADIES. Stop giving hints and just say what you want and how you feel.

9. Comfortable with herself/her body/her decisions

10. Throws down in the kitchen! Do not kill him with your salty pork chops ladies. If you are not so good in the kitchen...go ask Big Momma or take a culinary class

Other Turn Ons include:
1. Matching Panty and Bra sets (did you miss the Victoria Secret's Semi-Annual sale?)
2. Women who support their men and not try to act like their mothers
3. Pretty feet
4. Au Natural----take it easy on the lacefronts, the colored contacts, and the tons of makeup.

I love these trending topics on twitter! Ladies stay tuned I have more GOODIES for you about what men REALLY WANT! This should be interesting!

~Nique

You're Turnin Me Off

So last night on twitter was CRAZY!!!! The popular trending topic was Turn Ons and Turn Offs. The responses I read were HILARIOUS!!! Some responses left me thinking ok this why you are single...others left me saying OH EM GEE! So I compiled a list of the most realistic Turn Offs for guys. Ladies take notes. Oh nothing on this list will be sexual...I'm not trying to be in your bedroom business...there are other blogs for that

Turn Offs
1. Trying to hard to please him....Ladies men are simple!

2. Talking about your ex.....Ladies unless he asks....please don't mention how Tyrone did you dirty....they hate that! (I was guilty of this before)

3. Being too conservative or being too loose...in other words...Try not to be so stuck up and don't act like a smutty buddy. It is ok to be professional and it is ok to express your sexual liberation but be tactful

4. Don't pressure him into talking about "his feelings" Ladies we need to understand that men do not communicate like us and we can't expect them too, but don't nag and ask constantly well how do you feel....ummm yeah if you want to keep him or get him don't do that.

5. Don't try to change him!!! Ladies he is grown (or should be...no R. Kelly's over here) He is old enough to make his own decisions. If you need to try to change him then you don't need to be with him. You can't make him into the man you want. Accept him for who he is flaws and all.

6. Crusty feet....yuck!! Ladies keep it together, get your scheduled Manis and Pedis. He does not like how sand paper feels against his legs!

7. Sloppiness! Please buy clothes that fit! No muffin tops hanging out or pants that are so tight he can see the cellulite in your butt or your legs!!! Ewwwwwwwwwwww!

8. Women who do not maintain a presentable appearance. You never know if he is going to surprise you at the hair salon or at home so make sure you are not rockin your sweats with stains from 1920 and holes all in your shirt...no bueno

9. Uneducated women. A man actually appreciates a woman who is educated and who can articulate herself. Please don't sound like Toya and Tiny....Baaaaaaaabaay

10. Don't play the role of the victim! Stop complaining about everything! The world is not against you!

Other Turn Offs include:
1.Selfishness-it is ok to treat your man to a nice meal once in a while
2. Overbearing insecurities
3. Being too needy and clingy
4. A woman who cannot cook....ladies remember the way to a man's heart is through his stomach
5. A woman who is not stylish.....we can help you get your style game together!

There were a bunch of other tweets, but ladies I think these are the most helpful!

Stay tuned for the Turn Ons and other topics dealing with men and dating!

~Nique

Happy Father's Day

To all of the men who understand why it is important to be a positive role model in their child's life, we want to wish you a Happy Father's Day. Continue to guide, provide, and prepare your sons and daughters for this crazy world. Many men run from this blessing, but thank you to all of those who are handling their responsibilities. So once again, we here at Her Goody Bag appreciate you!

What Are We Doing?

Is he serious with last season's Balenciaga's!

Get it together please.

Secret Society...

TK Society Perforated Leather Hi Tops

~Nique

R+Evolution continued

Rocawear's R+Evolution also comes in Grey

and Blue

I actually like the greay pair. The quality of the blue pair doesn't look that great, but the grey suede is cool.

~Nique

In Other News...For the Fellas

So Angela Simmons' Ex-Boo, TK aka Terry Kennedy aka Compton @$$ Terry opened up his own store"District 8" in Long Beach, California

He feautred his own sneaker TK Society with the company Supra,
I see a dude in a white v-neck, plaid shorts with purple accents and these HOT suede kicks

Good Luck with the shoe line and the store

R+Evolution Hot or Not?

Hov is at it again. He is always finding new ways to remain on top.

Rocawear is scheduled to release these on June 1st
I think they are cool a step up from the S. Carters
. I'm not a sneaker person but I can see a fly dude pulling these off.

~Nique

Goodies Alert: Tie Me Up

Not as in Bondage but with Bow Ties!!! These are the cutest little Brooches...for men or women...by Marc C. They are in expensive also ($40 each)

Classic

Very 101 Dalmations

I Love This One

And This One...lol

To purchase www.marcclark.com

~Nique

Guys...Just In Time For Spring

Although Goody Bag is geared toward women, we still have love for the fellas that show us love!

This week, Supreme will release their updated version of the classic Nike Bruin. In addition to the revamped release, a Twill Pullover Jacket in three complimenting colors will also be released in company with the sneakers.

The Bruin comes in four colorways, featuring suede uppers and metallic inner soles. Each sneaker comes with a Nike SB x Supreme “World Famous” key chain. The collaboration will be available in NY & LA on Thursday, April 16th and online on Monday, April 20th. Available in Japan on Saturday, April 18th

I didn't forget about you guys! I'm definitely feeling the red/gold, green/silver Colorway. Black is always classic. This is definitel a good look fellas.

~Nique

Uhhh I Don't Understand...

Why they are creating leggings for men? Believe me, I understand the fashion industry is everchanging, but I just can't get with this look.

Would any of you ladies date a man who wears leggings?

~Nique

Genius Answers to First-Date Questions

It's Saturday, I'm sure you lovely ladies have some dates lined up for the night...When they(your date) starts 21 questioning you, here's what you answer them with.

He asks:"Why is someone as great as you are still single?"
Reply:"I'm holding out for someone equally great.What about you?
This is breezy & confident & shows you're loving the single life...until you meet Mr.right.

He asks:"Why did your last relationship end?"
Reply:"Things were never the same after the reality show ended. With the cameras turned off, we realized we just didn't click."
Cracking a joke will defuse potential awkwardness & keep the vibe positive.

He asks:"Have you ever had your heart broken?"
Reply:"Haven't we all?"
This conveys that you've moved on. If you haven't had your heart broken, tell him "I've been hurt in the past for sure, but I'm lucky that I've never been crushed."

~Ms.Francois

Saying What He Means or Not Pt.10

Ladies I'm sure you thought we ended this without letting you know but this is the last part of men translations, so take note & don't let them just tell you anything without refering to your guide of translations.

SEX
1. He says (while in bed): "I love you."
He means:"I love the SEX I have with you"(pay very close attention to that one, sometimes women get it so confused.)

2.He says: "I don't want the night to end. Want to hang out some more?"
He means:"Let's cut to the chase. Am I getting any tonight?"

3.He says:"How many guys have you been with?"
He means:"Tell me I'm the best you've ever had."

4.He says:"I don't masterbate all that often."
He means:"I masterbate more often than you wash your hands."

5.He says:"I want to watch you touch yourself."
He means:"I am having trouble figuring you out & need pointers."

6.He says:"Did you finish?"
He means:"I hope you finished, because I did & boy am I sleepy!"

7.He says:"You've never done that before-where did you learn it?"
He means:"Have you been hooking up with other people?"

Hide & Seek?

Is He Hiding Something Ladies?

For every question you answer yes to, there's a greater chance he's not telling you something you'd probably want to know.

When he talks to you, he looks up & to the right before speaking & avoids direct eye contact.

Y/N

He isn't suffering an unusual amount of stress in his life, yet he constantly seems preoccupied. Y/N

You find yourself confused by mixed messages he's sending.

Y/N

When you ask him a pointed question, he responds with another question.

Y/N

He gets far more upset about petty annoyances- poor service, bad traffic- than normal.

Y/N

You haven't seen his friends- especially his close ones-nearly as often lately.

Y/N

Excuse Meeeeeeee Can I Have Your Attention Please

Ladies did you ever feel the need to get a bullhorn to get the guy you were interested in to notice you? Sometimes we play hard to get, but we really want his affection. Well here are 8 simple steps to get him to notice you...courtesy of Glamour, maybe they will get the hint now...Enjoy :-)

Stop playing hard to get

A guy likes a girl who has got it going on, but if you want to find love in 10 days and you’re not around, it isn’t going to happen. Being unavailable seems rigid and high-maintenance. If he throws out a time that doesn’t work for you, either say yes to the next option or propose a date of your own. If you won’t make time early on in the relationship, men take it to mean you definitely won’t make time later.

Be Attentive: This is not the time to text

Conversation is like kissing. It’s a two-way street, and those roads are meant to be shared. Be sure to ask questions, answer questions thoughtfully and engage in conversation. Make eye contact, and please, please, please put your cell phone away. If you must make or take a call, excuse yourself as courteously as possible and don’t be away for more than five minutes—or you’ll raise suspicion and doubts. Think about it this way: How would you feel if he left you alone to chat to his friend about how the date was going?

Try Something New

It’s usually the man’s responsibility to make the date fun, and that puts a lot of pressure on us. So even if you don’t usually like the activity we’ve picked out, go along for the ride with an open mind and positive attitude. Example: He suggests a Red Sox game and you hate baseball. Instead of whining about it, have him buy you some beer and Cracker Jacks and ask him questions about the game. You never know—you might find a new hobby!


Let Your Guard Down

Past relationships and bad blind dates may have made you jaded, but don’t assume this guy “is just like all the rest.” And not that you would, but under no circumstances should you bring up your guy woes around the new object of your affection. Apologies for the cheesy analogy, but if the baggage doesn’t fit in the overhead compartment (or under the seat in front of you), it’s not going to be an easy trip

Stop Texting: No One Will Get Hurt

Don’t be that girl who communicates only via abbreviated words and emoticons—and don’t let him be that guy. When you’re starting to date someone, texting, e-mailing or instant messaging should be used in emergencies only (like when you lose him at an insanely crowded, loud concert)


Know the power of your outfit

We all buy into the latest fashion trends, but your goal with your date is to lure him in. Men want to see you in something that shows off your figure but isn’t sleazy, which sends a message of desperation. Another sign of desperation is looking like you tried too hard. Guys aren’t lying when they say they want a girl who can roll out of bed and still look gorgeous. Find a happy medium, and when in doubt throw on a pair of body-hugging jeans, a top that makes you feel sexy and heels.

TMI is never a good thing

Sharing too much too soon can be easily misconstrued. Anecdotes and good conversation are always a plus (see tip number one), but when talking about yourself, leave out unnecessary details. On the list of forbidden topics: exes, family plans and anything else that could send him heading for the hills.

Keep Him Wanting More
No matter how well a first date is going, be sure it doesn’t run into the wee hours of the morning. Every man loves some TLC, but if you want to keep him coming back, I recommend leaving the first couple of dates to intimate goodnight kisses—and be sure to keep those clothes on for now.

Saying What He Means or Not Pt.9

1.He says:"It's not a big deal."
He means:"It's a big deal, but I'm hoping I can fool you into thinking it's not."

2.He says:"That's not what I meant"
He means:"That's totally what I meant, but now that I see you're mad, I wish I hadn't said it out loud."

3.He says:"You're being such a girl."
He means:"I don't understand you at all."

4.He says:"It's fine."
He means:"It's not actually fine, but I'm in no mood to discuss it."

5.He says:"Can we talk about this later?"
He means:"I never want to talk about this again."

Saying What He Really Means or Not Pt.8

Serious Discussions

1.He says:"I just need some space."

He means:"I want out."

2.He says:"I didn't know it would upset you this much."

He means:"I knew it would upset you a little, and that's why I didn't tell you."

3.He says:"Don't you think that's a little bit unreasonable?"

He means:"You're off your rocker, lady."

4.He says:"Why are you being so emotional?"

He says:"Why are you acting like a psycho?"

5.He says:"Yeah, I guess you're right."
He means:"I disagree, but more than anything, I want to end this."

Saying What He Means or Not Pt.7

Appearances

1.He says:" You look hot."

He means:"Can we have sex later?"

2. He says:"Isn't that a little revealing for girls' night?"

He means:"I don't want guys hitting on you."

3.He says:"Do I look o.k?"

He means:"I'm not going to change, so this better be o.k."

4.He says:"That's a new look."

He means:"You look weird."

5.He says:"I really like those shoes."

He means:"I'm in so much trouble. I'd better make nice."

Saying What He Means or Not Pt.6

Dude Behavior

1. He says: "I thought I knew her."
He means: "I was checking her out."

2.He says : "It's a guy thing."
He means: "If I tell you, you'll think I'm animal."

3.He says: "It's a long story."
He means : "It's a story that makes me look bad."

4.He says:"I don't get why girls like him."
He means:"I'm feeling insecure, so say something reassuring."

5.He says: "I was good on boys' night."
He means:"Good is a relative term...but I didn't cheat on you."

6.He says: "My friend is so whipped!"
He means:"I'm a little hurt that my buddy is choosing a chick over me."

Stay tuned for what guys really mean, on Appearances, that's it for Dude Behavior.

Saying What He Really Means or Not Pt.5

1.He says:"My Mom is like that around new people."
He means"My mom isn't a fan of yours."

2.He says:"I'm not going to change."
He means:"I don't have the balls to break up with you , so I'm going to force you to dump me."

3.He says:"Seems like a lot of your friends are starting to get married and have kids."
He means:"Uh-oh,you're going to start freaking out soon."

That's enough for the relationships tomorrow starts Dude Behavior....Stay Tuned!